Friday, June 19, 2009

I Tiny, Stupid Female... You Big, Smart Man

I enjoy having rights as a woman. I am grateful to have the opportunities that men have. However, I'm no feminist. I'm quite traditional, in fact. My dream job is to be a stay at home mom and housewife. But really, I do appreciate the fact that should I want to be something else, my dreams are my only limitation.

But every now and then, some thoughtless jerk makes me want to jump out of my seat and scream. This is literally, word-for-word the conversation that I just had over the phone at work (we sell a home electricity monitor):

Me: "Hello, how can I help you?"
Guy: "Can you please make this process easier for me?"
Me: "What?"
Guy: "To order one of these things. So that I don't have to read all this 'stuff' on your website."
[Insert awkward silence on my end because I don't know what to say. The 'stuff' he's referring to are words - words that describe how to determine what you need.]
Guy: "I guess you've never heard it phrased that way before."
Me: "No, sir, not exactly."
Guy: "Well can you help me?"
Me: "I can certainly try."
Guy: "So tell me what I need."
Me: "Well, how many breaker panels do you have in your home?"
Guy: "I don't know. You need to know that?"
Me: "Yes. How many panels you have determines which model you need."
Guy: "So what's a panel? Is it that board with all the fuse things on it?"
Me: "Yes, I need to know how many your home has. It is typically only one or two."
Guy: "Anything else you need to know?"
Me: "Yes, I need to know the amperage of the service coming into your home."
Guy: "How do I find that?"
Me: "It's usually displayed on the main breaker switch."
Guy: "Well gosh, how do you know all this about electricity? You're just a girl!"
[Insert very awkward silence from me... whaaaaaat?]
Guy: "Well, I guess I shouldn't say just a girl."
Me: "I'm a technician, sir."
Guy: "Oh. Well I have to go around my house and count the panels. I'll call back in a few minutes."

Seriously?!?! Some old school, crotchety old men might dare to think that about women, but who actually says it??? Especially TO them??

My favorite part was his correction. There was no shame in his voice after what he had said; he simply suggested that the word 'just' was what was wrong with his statement. Got news for ya, dude... if you take out the word "just," it's still wrong. I don't know why he even bothered to make the correction at all, as he was not aware that what he said was offensive (or maybe he didn't care).

Well, this guy hasn't called back yet.... he's probably still fumbling around his house trying to figure out what a circuit breaker panel is. Regardless, I guess I'd better take a bunch of chill pills in preparation for our next conversation. Oh my, thank goodness it's Friday.


Jenn said...

Ugh, that's miserable! I can't believe he said that stuff! I bet he'll figure out how to deal with all the "stuff" to do it online now...

I just want to interject that I don't think that wanting to be a stay-at-home mom or generally having traditional goals is incompatible with being a feminist! Caring about having all those other opportunities and being willing to stand up so that others can have them matters too. :)

Anonymous said...

Too funny....years ago you would have clocked him if he was in arms reach!
Love you, Mom
ps....have a good weekend